How to Achieve Happiness from Within

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. 

Then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I paused and observed for a while… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, How Does One Become Genuinely Happy?

The first step is to LOVE YOURSELF.

A theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from your mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.” By being thankful for what you have.

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life as if it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

Failure is Necessary

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, failing on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the Sports. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score.”

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. 

So, how do you become genuinely happy? Everyone has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as many best-selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success in business. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple.

Smiling at Your Mistakes

You don’t have to have the best things in this world. It’s about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistakes and telling yourself “Oh, I’ll do better next time”,   you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”. For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love back tenfold.

Again, throw me that same question “how to achieve happiness from within?” I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don’t just become happy, you become free too.”


My Take

Now the biggest is how do you maintain that Happiness within yourself in these stressful times? 
As you go about doing your day to day chores in life, as you stumble across set –backs, allow yourself not to pay attention for too long but rather every set-back must be lesson, never dwell on anything that will slow you down.

This life is a race, it is not a 100km sprint but rather a marathon run, so pace yourself, never try and sprint through life once u are able to accomplish that and don’t even bother about how the next person lives then you will truly be a happy soul.

Live only for you, be around people that are positive influences in your life, develop routine that makes YOU happy and press on, yes they will always be society watching you like a hawk, but does society pay your bills?

Does society bring food to your table? The only person you should worry about is God who has put you on this earth for a purpose…. I will ask you again? Who are we not to be HAPPY, you are the only person responsible for your happiness, I know I sound like a broken record but that’s a fact…

Pace yourself through every trial, heartbreak, good-bye, grief, set-back, allow yourSELF to learn from this and MOVE ON! The world will not stop rotating at your grief…. HAPPINESS is not bought or borrowed it is WITHIN YOURSELF! ;)

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